The way how we look at things/people is very important. It is great when we can look without immediately Judge. But observing in a non-judgemental way isn't easy. When you tell what you see, often immediately you start to interpret: "I saw him there, sitting lonely in a corner', 'She looked angry because she felt ruffed.'

Interpreting what you see, immediately adding words to your observations, leads to a closed attitude. Often it is that the more you are in a hurry, the worse you observe. Your reproduction of what you see is more interpreting than descriptive. To observe in a non-judgemental way, it helps to register with your eyes. In silence and with an open attitude. You register, but don't grant immediately value to what you see. If you can do that, you see and experience new things. Looking in this way sharpens your observation here and now. It makes you aware of all your senses. It is beautiful when you can give back your observation without judgement. This is a wonderful basis for inquisitive feedback: "I see you do this and that, what do you mean by it?" Looking in this way is wonderingly, and wonder is a beautiful way to get loose from axioms. It makes communication easier and better. The other person is invited to be honest. There will be more understanding. And real contact and connection.