The courage to decide
Published on Wednesday, 18 February 2015 | Written by Francina de Pater | 
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Last week I read the wonderful book by Anselm Grün - The courage to decide. This is a theme which probably everyone recognizes and also is an issue for some clients in my practice. Some people find it difficult to make choices. They need time in order to be able to make a decision. They want to make a good decision and therefore hesitate. They constantly wonder what the right thing might be. Therefore they search very specifically for methods that teach them to be more decisive. How do you find out what is the right decision? What exercises exist to learn to choose a particular direction as the argument for the different options are equally strong? In everyday life we need to choose every moment whether we want others to control our lives or we want to shape our own lives. You can choose for whining and complaining, or to change, for annoyance or inner equanimity, to be unhappy or to be happy.
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Burnout is not age related
Published on Wednesday, 25 June 2014 | Written by Francina de Pater | | | Hits: 1505
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Are older workers getting more easily burnout than younger workers? No. That fiftieplus people are often victims of emotional exhaustion is a myth from the nineties.
Shining eyes
Published on Wednesday, 04 June 2014 | Written by Francina de Pater | | | Hits: 1459
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For all teachers, leaders, parents, actually everybody: take a look at the wonderful clip of Benjamin Zander on Youtube (write his name + shining eyes and you will find it). A few quotes:
My job is to awaken possibilities in other people. If the eyes are shining, you are doing it. If not, who am I being that their eyes aren't shining. It's not about wealth, nor succes nor fame. It's about how many shining eyes I see.
Problems, an insurmountable obstacle?
Published on Wednesday, 21 May 2014 | Written by Francina de Pater | | | Hits: 1832
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Many people have the impression that they are in front of a mountain of problems. They don't know where to start to tackle it. With respect to this situation Jesus makes a beautiful statement: "I assure you that whoever tells this hill to get up and throw itself in the sea and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him." (Mark 11, 23). Herewith Jesus want to encourage us to believe.
Smiling leads to compassion
Published on Thursday, 24 April 2014 | Written by Francina de Pater | | | Hits: 1822
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Do you also enjoy spring? Let yourself be filled with softening. For instance when you see young ducks. Look also in this manner at things in your life with compassion.