Regrets

The English nurse Bronnie Ware noted the things patients on their death bed regretted. This is the top five of most heard regrets:

Find your passion

To find your passion it is helpful to understand how the process of discover your passion works. The following metaphores can help:

7 Rules of Life

 

Do you have enough PEE's in your work?

A good indicator whether you like it durably in your job is when the content of your work leads you minimally once a day to a PEE: Positive Emotional Experience. Just for a while the thought: 'What a beautiful job do I have...'

Love at first sight doesn't exist

The American psychologist Gary Brase says that love at first sight can be better called 'attraction at first sight'. Brase concludes that on the basis of Robert Sternbergs' model of love. This model targets three aspects:

1) passion or physical attraction

2) intimacy and connection
 
3) the will to maintain the relation or to enter in to it
 
Sternberg states that there is perfect love when all aspects are present at the same time. Of course it is the question whether we are able to love in a perfect way, but I think the idea is clear. The three aspects are necessary to maintain a good relationship. 

According Brase intimacy and connection can not occur at first sight and that's why love at first sight also doesn't exist. You can feel strongly attracted to someone, but that has more to do with fysical attraction, a shared cultural background, character traits which you like or a combination of those three.

When we compare our relationship with the three points above, how is it then? Which are the points we have to work on? Love needs work!